About MyAttachmentTest

Our Mission

Attachment patterns shape almost every close relationship we have — with partners, friends, and family. Yet most people have never heard the language to describe them. We built MyAttachmentTest.com to make a validated, research-grounded self-assessment freely available to anyone curious about their own relational patterns — with no sign-up, no data collection, and no paywall.

The Science Behind the Test

Our 18-question assessment is adapted from the Experiences in Close Relationships (ECR) scale, one of the most widely used and peer-reviewed instruments in adult attachment research. The ECR was developed by Brennan, Clark, and Shaver (1998) and measures two core dimensions of adult attachment:

• Attachment Anxiety — fear of rejection or abandonment in close relationships
• Attachment Avoidance — discomfort with closeness and emotional dependence

Combining these two dimensions produces the four widely recognized attachment styles: Secure, Anxious, Avoidant, and Disorganized (Fearful-Avoidant). The theoretical foundation comes from the work of John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth, who established attachment theory in the mid-20th century.

What This Test Is — and Isn't

This is a self-reflection tool, not a clinical diagnosis. It is intended for educational and personal-growth purposes. Attachment styles exist on a spectrum and can shift over time with self-awareness, healthier relationships, and — when needed — professional support. If you're struggling, please reach out to a licensed mental health professional. In the US, the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline is available 24/7 by calling or texting 988.

Privacy by Design

Your answers are processed entirely in your browser. We never send your responses to a server, never store them, and never share them with anyone. The moment you close the tab, your data is gone. For full details, see our Privacy Policy.

How We're Funded

MyAttachmentTest.com is free to use. To keep it that way, we display advertising (via Google AdSense) and may include affiliate links to mental-health services we believe are reputable. When you sign up through one of those links, we may earn a commission — at no extra cost to you. Affiliate relationships never influence the content of the assessment or its results.

References

• Brennan, K. A., Clark, C. L., & Shaver, P. R. (1998). Self-report measurement of adult attachment: An integrative overview. In J. A. Simpson & W. S. Rholes (Eds.), Attachment theory and close relationships (pp. 46–76). Guilford Press.
• Bowlby, J. (1969). Attachment and Loss, Vol. 1: Attachment. Basic Books.
• Ainsworth, M. D. S., Blehar, M. C., Waters, E., & Wall, S. (1978). Patterns of attachment: A psychological study of the strange situation. Lawrence Erlbaum.
• Fraley, R. C., Waller, N. G., & Brennan, K. A. (2000). An item response theory analysis of self-report measures of adult attachment. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 78(2), 350–365.

Contact

Questions, feedback, or corrections? We'd love to hear from you: hello@myattachmenttest.com